“Recovers”. That’s an… interesting idea. To the best of my knowledge, having had it for a few decades, I’m not aware of any recovery process. You don’t get over being Borderline. There are ways to deal with it more productively once you know what’s going on, but it doesn’t go away.
That being said, I can share a heartwarming story! When I was at my worst I drove every single person in my life away from me. Two years later I knew what was happening and that gave me a more rational set of tools to work with. So I gathered my courage and decided to contact one of my former best friends. I wanted to let her know, at the very least, why I behaved as I did toward her, and to apologize. She deserved that at the very least. To my enormous surprise she not only accepted my invitation to talk, she suggested that we meet face-to-face to have that discussion.
That was 16 years ago. Not only are we still best friends, we’re now a very solid romantic couple (it surprised the hell out of both of us, believe me!). We’ll celebrate our 14th anniversary this year. I’ve worked hard to maintain a more lucid frame of mind. She’s worked hard to deal with all the times I don’t win that fight.
It’s possible to rebuild some of the bridges you burn as a Borderline. But you need someone pretty incredible working to rebuild from the other side.
Jubilarian 